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Most people have experience or witnessed some form of bullying. Being picked on by another person, being called names or being laughed at by the ‘cool’’ group at school is no fun and can have serious after effects for the victim. Teri Breguet, author of the book Cyber bullying states “bullying is a method of intimidation that takes many forms and has existed through the generations”. Normally bullying will take place outside the victim’s home. However, there is a type of bullying that your child may be being exposed to right under your nose. It is called cyber bullying.
“In cyber bullying, bullies use computers to send threatening e-mails and cell phones to take digital pictures of their victims that they manipulate and later post online”, says Breguet.
Cyber bullying is very serious and can affect teenagers to such an extend where they fall into depression and feel insecure and threatened.
Why do bullies chose to use the form of cyber bullying?
Bullies may choose to use this form of bullying for a number of reasons such as the fact that they can do it anonymously. The bully can also harass his or her victims at times that are suitable for them. There is also little effort involved in the ‘attack’ and the bully has an audience online to show off to (by exposing the victims most embarrassing moments).
What to do if you are being bullied
- Remember that it is not your fault
No one deserves to be bullied and you should not think that there is something wrong with you if are being bullied.
- Do not react to the bullying
This may be easier said than done, however it is important to not give the bully all the power. If you start mirroring bully’s actions then that just turns you into the bully (not a good idea). Sometimes laughing at what is being said or using humour will distract or confuse the bully.
- Save evidence
If the bully sends hateful text messages or posts nasty content on your social media accounts you must not delete it. Save the evidence so you can take the matter further with the help of your parents.
- Stand up for yourself and say ‘stop’
Try speaking to the bully in a calm and relaxed tone and tell them to please stop what they are doing.
- Ask your parents for help
Most young people do not tell their parents that they are being bullied in fear of feeling embarrassed. Your parents will be proud of you for reaching out to get help. So confide in them and let them in.